Monday, April 13, 2009

Just Read

I read a blog today that spoke of life phases at age 50, then someone responded to a similar stage at age 60. I guess with my own "phases" that I go through now, I am not looking forward to age 50 and 60. I'm just about 50. I've been struggling quite a bit. I always thought something was wrong with me.

It helps a little to know that I'm not the only one, but I was hoping it was temporary because of some major, stressful events in my life. Of course, it makes sense that as we get older, our bodies go through different changes, especially hormonal, both men and women. I guess I never thought about it like that....actually, I haven't thought about it at all.

13 comments:

Fat, frumpy and fifty... said...

perhaps a little perspective. Yes knowledge is power and informing and helpful. I would say its best to file it for future reference. Each one of us is different and what I go through will be differnet to yours l'm usre. You will be able to take hold of your journey by the scruff and call it your own. Itw ill be different to mine. Of that l am certain. you can't prepare. just luve it. But kow this is a certainty. ALways.

'This too shall pass'

always..a given a cert!

Fat, frumpy and fifty... said...

sorry about the spelling, i get caried away and forget to spell check..

usre means sure

luve it should rad Live it..

FFF

presious said...

You are such a sweetie. I do embrace my past experiences because if it were not for them, I would not be the person I am today. I do feel much stronger and more wise as a result of such. You have been through a lot with moving into your home and all. You have handled your home and your family quite well under the circumstances. I don't know if I could have done what you did. Then again, we do what we have to eh?

Thank you so much! I do understand

blueviolet@A Nut in a Nutshell said...

There is a part of me that loves getting older and a part of me that hates it. I suppose that will continue to flip flop through time. I wish you peace as you move to the next stage! :)

Ms. Bar B: said...

And here I was complaining about turning 25, lol. I am sure you are great at 50 and I think its completely ok to just live in the moment at being 50 and taking things one step at a time.

I hope that the "phases" aren't too difficult to ease into and having said that, I am hoping that you are able to ease into them instead of being thrusted into them.

MBB Founder and Editor Denene Millner said...

I just turned 40, and I find that as I get older, I feel much better about getting older... does that make sense? I embrace it, really--feeling more wise, more confident, more in control.

I'm sure it only gets better! At least that's what my mother-in-law, who just turned 70, tells me!

MBB Founder and Editor Denene Millner said...

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presious said...

Blueviolet,

That is so accurate! There is a lot about myself, at this time in my life, that I totally love. I am able to look back on my life and see a lot of growth, improvements, etc.

As for some of the transitions to get to and through those levels is what is difficult or sometimes unlikeable.

Thanks for your input. It definitely helps.

Polly said...

Its funny I found turning 30 so liberating I seemed to care less what others thought and I think I really got my groove from 30 onwards. I wonder what it will be like when I reach 40? I hope I continue to feel liberated but I do feel as I get older that I fret for the things I have missed out on.
I think you will be ok Pres. I really do.

Moannie said...

Presious: I have just come from reading your comment on my blog [for which many thanks for visiting] and I am sorry if my comment to FFF gave you pause for thought. As she says here, we are all different and our 'stresses' have different causes, and are handled by each individual in various stages of cope-ability. She has a husband [though often absent] and her children are near adults and she manages her stress quota very well. But as the menopause nears another stage has arrived, and that spaced out...what have I done with my life?...am I still attractive? What happens now? feeling is perfectly natural and it DOES pass.
The next phase occurs when the nest is empty and it is a time that should be prepared for. If you have a profession, take courses to refresh yourself, if not take a course in something that really appeals to you and do it now so that when the time comes you are ready. Make time for yourself-out with friends at least once a week. Volounteer in a Charity Shop or Hospital...it always makes one feel better to do for others. You will then find this phase very easy to slip into.
The next phase is retirement, and you will be ready to enjoy this. But that is a long way off and by then you will be fulfilled both as a mother who has down a great job and as a person, with interests galore and great friends.
I hope I have managed to make you feel better about this 'being a woman' business.

Suburbia said...

I just read you at FFF. I am 45 in a few months and have found myself at a crossroads, not hormonal yet, but sensing I need to change my life before it is too late. I hope you find some peace soon.

lori vliegen said...

i love the artwork that you chose to go with your post today!! it tells me that your sense of humor is definitely still intact...and what could be better?!! hang in there, precious presious!! :)

presious said...

Lori,

Yes, absolutely! I find myself laughing more today than I did just a few years ago. As I get older, I seem to relax on some things. I am looking to calm my life down, make it a bit more simple as my children get older and I head for the empty nest in a few years.

Yes, humor is good! Thanks