Friday, June 25, 2010

Refound Sister

A few days ago, my sister re-found our sister in Tennessee. It's pretty awesome. Originally, back when I was 23 years old, I decided to reunite with our biological father. It was the best thing I ever done in my life. I went out to Tennessee during Thanksgiving week during that year. It was as if I had always lived there. Even though I had never been there, it felt totally familiar. This is when I met my sister and brother. It was so awesome.

Well, about 7 years after this reunitification, my father died. He had received a heart transplant 7 years prior. The heart was only expected to last 2 to 3 years. He was really blessed with 7 years. So, my sister and I took the trip together back to Tennessee for his burial. That was my sister's first trip back.

She and our brother form a really nice bond. They communicated a lot through Instant Messaging on the computer until she had told me that he had suddenly stopped responding. At this time, we did not realize our sister did not have our contact info. She was in not-so-good relationship that made her less available.

Recently, my sister had become curious about our sister and brother. She got on Facebook and looked for them. To our greatest surprise, our sister responded! It is so exciting! I must admit, I am nervous. I have no clue what to say! This is so unlike me!

The sad news is, our brother passed away in 2004. This is more than likely the reason he had suddenly stopped communicating with my other sister. Though I did not know him well, it left me with a very strange feeling. I still felt the loss. It was my brother...a brother I never knew I had. When I was yonger, I always wanted a brother, an older brother. Of course, he was my younger brother, but a brother is a brother. Still not quite sure how to feel about it. I am more disappointed than sad, but I am sad too. Also, my dad's sister passed in 2008.

My dad's side of the family is very small. I think our sister is out there pretty much alone with the exception of some friends. She seems like she is doing very well now, much better than before. She seems happy and settled down. This is very good, makes me extremely happy for her.

Positive thoughts and prayers....:-)/:-(


Sniffles and Smiles said...

I'm so very excited for you! I hope you will have a chance to reconnect! What a life and journey you have had! BTW, the photograph is simply gorgeous! Hope you are doing well...and that you are not too tired with all that you are juggling! You've been in my thoughts! Love, Janine XO

lori vliegen said...

i'm sorry for the loss of your brother.....and at the same time, i'm glad that you've had this blessing of reconnecting with your'll know the right words to say when the time comes! :))

Polly said...

I hope that this reunion goes wonderfully for you Pres. Brothers and sisters are a joy and I think its great that you have the chance at a relationship.

presious said...

Hey Sniffles,

This weekend was pretty exhausting. I'm very aware of it and taking it into consideration as I move through the week. Yesterday was really difficult. I had a surge of anxiety and suddenly felt overwhelmed. I became sensitive to sound. So, I had the kids put the toys away and watch a program for about 15 mins so I could regroup.

The day continued to be a struggle, but I got through it. After the kids took their nap, I took them outside to let them stretch out cause Ms. Lori had the!

Lori and Polly,

I spoke to my other sister last night. We are all so jazzed. K, our new refound sister, wants to relocate out here to Califonia. She feels pretty much alone since so many family members have passed away. We plan to talk via 3-way tonight or tomorrow. Exciting! :-)